Becoming an Adult

I pose the question: When are you an adult (in the USA)? At age 13 (Jewish), 15 (Hispanic), 16 (freedom of driving), 18 (military/voting), 21 (drinking), 25 (renting a car), or when you pay for your own cell phone? The USA is confused about coming of age. Now you can debate whether it should be yesterday I was a boy and today I am a man (but I still respect the older men cause they know more), or if a “teenage/young adult” period of coming of age is better, but come on when is someone an adult?

This question has bugged me, mostly cause not everyone matures at the same rate. Also who says that one day makes that much difference in whether you are responsible or not.

Another reason this question swirls around my head is that two friends of mine said “Welcome to adulthood” on my 21st birthday, but the irony is I feel like of all my friends they are not acting much like mature adults.

So when do you become an adult? But a more practical question is when/how do you treat others as adults?

The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise – Alden Nowlan



What does it mean to be a child? And when is you young child become an adult child and what does that mean? I know its all confusing so lets start off with an easy definition.

Your child is your offspring, or a young person that you care for. Now that was easy. Bring on the big tough parts.

Lets start with what is the difference between a child child and an adult child. Does your child always owe you for the love and care you provided as they grew up? I say no. I think that you care for them ’cause you love them. Now an adult child would be a child that you let go. Hodding Carter says “There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings. ” So when you let your child fly then they become an adult child. (I say this should happen in college, if not a lot of freedom to test fly in high school.)

So the difference between a young child and an adult child is choice. An adult child can choose what they want and how to get it. This sounds like respecting an adult’s autonomy.